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I’ve seen several posts lately that had to do with criticism in some way or another. I wanted to share with you a technique for dealing with criticism that really works – when I’m willing to work it, anyway.
Criticism is hardest to deal with when it hits a sore spot. If you’re not confident about something in your life and someone criticizes that very thing, the criticism can confirm your worst fears (at least in your mind).
The key to dealing with criticism is to take two steps. First, take some deep breaths and get past the emotional reaction that you may be feeling. Being criticized feels like being attacked even if it’s not intended that way. Your natural reaction is to defend yourself – fight or flight.
In order to deal with criticism successfully, you have to get past those emotions and get to a place where you can look at the criticism logically. So you take some deep breaths, you go walk it off, you think about it for a few minutes and then go walk it off some more (or maybe that’s just me). Eventually, your emotions will subside and leave you able to look at the criticism logically.
Once you’ve reached a place where you’re using your logic and not your emotions, you’re ready for the second step. Look for the truth in the criticism.
You may not find any. It may be so silly, or so off base from what you want to accomplish, that all you can do is shrug it off. But that kind of criticism is not usually the type that affects your self-confidence.
When you do find some truth in the criticism – something that you really could have done better – you’ve found something that you can control. You can decide to improve that thing. You can decide to ignore it. It’s your choice.
By acknowledging the truth in the criticism and deciding for yourself what you’re going to do about it, you take away the power that the criticizer has over you. You give yourself that power, and it makes you stronger.